Do We Really Need Social Media?

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Facebook. Twitter. Instagram. Snapchat. How active you are on these platforms defines your relevance. Your worth seemingly measured by your follower count.

I’m constantly reading tweets from people “Feeling bad about not being active on social media” (And I’m guilty of this too), getting upset about algorithm changes, joining follow trains (again, guilty) to boost their social standing. We even feel the need to apologise for taking ‘time off’ social media to spend time with our families.

Social media has become such a draining popularity contest that we’ve forgotten it’s meant to be social.

I used to rely heavily on it. It’s where I read my news, got my blog traffic, and spied on old acquaintances from school. I lived by the adage ‘If it’s not on Facebook, it didn’t happen’. I posted all of my holiday pictures, every waking thought, every detail of my day – anything that would make my life look interesting. But who was I trying to impress? And why did it matter so much?

So years later, I gave up everything. It was sucking the life out of me. I convinced myself that I would no longer live my life through a screen, and I didn’t need it anymore.

I felt liberated when I deleted all the social media apps off my phone – like I’d disappeared off the face off the Earth. At last I was free to do or say whatever I wanted without being under a watchful eye. I didn’t feel like keeping up with what everyone else was doing, because I had no idea what anyone was up to. I lived in a bubble and for once, my mind was quiet.

However, giving up social media doesn’t seem to be a sustainable option. Because almost everyone you know uses at least one platform, you can be left behind if you don’t use it at all. If you run a business, social media and an online presence is absolutely essential. And sometimes, it’s just nice to be connected.

To sum up, social media isn’t evil. I think the problem is with the way we use it. It’s okay to be offline, to not be on every platform, to not have many followers. You don’t have to add your co-workers on Facebook if you don’t want to, and if social media is overwhelming you – it’s okay to quit.

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2 thoughts on “Do We Really Need Social Media?

  1. Disappear off Twitter or Line for even a week and “do I look like I give a fck” short attention span quite rightly returns. Maybe five tweets a day are actually worth reading or replying to! – I suspect most social media becomes so vapid that people either stop noticing, or unconsciously add fuel to the fire to fill a need in themselves.

    Business and pleasure SM are best kept separate…with clearer expectations and needs- met awareness. “Popularity” often accompanies loneliness, if not being really open and authentic.


    1. I completely agree. I don’t think social media is the end of the world, but it definitely can be used in a way that isolates people instead of bringing them together. I don’t like the expectation that everyone has to have a Facebook account for example. Some people would just rather not bother with it, either using it sparingly or not at all, and that’s a personal decision. But social media does have some upsides too, so personally I don’t think I could ditch it forever, but I’ve been known to dip in and out from time to time.


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