Why You Need a Support Network

Why You Need a Support Network

Feeling alone at a bad time can be the difference between recovery and relapse. Everyone deserves to be heard, their problems validated. Whether it’s a friend, partner, or even finding a community online, people need a person or place to go to where they feel like they’re being heard and cared for. I’m incredibly lucky to have a lot of people in my life who care about my well-being and will listen to me rant all night if that’s what I need.

It’s so important to surround yourself with people who genuinely care, regardless of your mental health. It’s harder to grow without support and encouragement. If you are struggling and feel like you have nowhere to go, don’t give up. Speak to the people you’re closest to about what’s going on, chances are that they probably had no idea the extent of your troubles, or what you read as ‘not caring’ was them just misjudging the situation. If they become your ongoing support, maybe you need to discuss your needs and expectations. We have so much to gain from talking and being open and honest with each other.

There are other options if this doesn’t work out. Mind, a mental health charity, have over 100 branches across the UK that offer peer support and other services. If it’s within your budget, you could also consider counselling. I felt amazing after completing 11 months of counselling and it was great having a dedicated hour every week where I could vent my frustrations and analyse every thought without judgement.

Finally, if these options aren’t available to you, the internet is full of wonderful resources for your mental health. Online forums and organisations, such as The Buddy Project, The Mighty, and The Blurt Foundation, and even social media (mostly Twitter) have provided me with safe spaces and like minded supportive people who will listen and give advice. I love being on Twitter. I feel like part of a huge family where we all help each other out and lift each other up. It’s such a positive community and I’m proud to be a part of it.

Whatever your needs, there is a supportive network out there for you. Go and find it, and don’t give up. You may be able to face your troubles alone, but it’s a lot easier if you’re in good company.

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  1. Monica Erickson
    June 20, 2018 / 11:44 pm

    Your so right, about all of this. I have a pretty good support system in place, there’s my husband, my therapist every other week, my case manager every other week and my psychiatrist for med management. Twitter is the best! I’m not on as much as I would like to be, it’s hard to keep up but I can’t handle too much at once. Thank you for writing about mental illness, you’re a talented and spot on writer. Take care of yourself. Monica Erickson ________________________________

    • June 23, 2018 / 9:03 am

      Thank you – I’m so pleased to hear you have so much support in place! It really does make all the difference. Wishing you all the best in your recovery 🙂

  2. June 21, 2018 / 7:23 am

    I’ve just turned 25 and it was a stark reality of who my real friends were – the ones who contacted me to say happy birthday. It also is one of my goals to make some more firm friendships before I’m 30. I do have a good support system in place, but I know it’s not the case for everyone

    Kate xx
    http://www.mummywho.com

    • June 23, 2018 / 9:06 am

      I’m only 22, but I’ve noticed friends seem to disappear as you get older and as you encounter struggles. The real ones stick around though, and they’re the ones who matter. I’m glad you’ve got a good support system in place, here’s to expanding your circle! 🙂

  3. June 22, 2018 / 3:34 pm

    Support is so vital. We all need cheerleaders and to be cheerleaders for others. Great piece ❤️

  4. November 29, 2018 / 3:01 pm

    You’re right, having supportive people in our lives is vital! Thanks for including ways to find support outside of friends and family.

    • November 30, 2018 / 8:42 am

      It’s so important! Thank you, I understand that not everyone has a close and understanding family, I found a lot of support on Twitter myself which was so helpful when I was struggling and feeling alone.

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