The Symptom of Depression Nobody Talks About

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Depression is often summarised as a lack of energy, appetite, and motivation. Living with depression for years, I’ve experienced all of these, but I’ve found that there’s one side of the illness that never seems to be mentioned: confusion.

Some describe it as an out of body experience, where a person is physically there, but mentally somewhere else. I have a habit of daydreaming and can often switch off for long periods of time, I’ve never thought this could be a small sign of mental illness. Since I’ve started taking medication, I’ve noticed this happening more and more:


The sound of the alarm woke me, and I slowly peeled my eyes open, panic struck me. ‘Where the hell am I?!’ I felt frightened and confused, battling to free myself out of the duvet I was bundled up in, my heart was racing as I scanned the room, desperately trying to piece together clues that would give me an indication of where I was and how I got here; ‘Where was I last night? Why don’t I remember?’ I opened the door and took the stairs to my right, hoping something would jolt my memory. I entered a living room and everything looked foreign to me. I just stood there, swaying gently on the spot, trying to remember where I was and what I was doing last night that led me here, I didn’t recognise any of it.

A pug appeared from the kitchen – my pug. Wait – was this my house? I felt a rush in my head as it all came back to me: of course it was my house. I woke up in my own bed, in my bedroom, and here I was in the living room. There was pictures of my relatives on the sideboard, why did they look like nobody to me? My heart slowed so suddenly I felt like I could faint, and all at once I had to fight back tears for feeling so stupid to forget what my own house looked like.

I left for work later on, and as I climbed into my car, a scary thought popped into my head, ‘Do I know how to drive?’ I’d been driving for two and a half years, but this morning felt like the first time I’d held a car key. I let my mind wander as I drove to work, with the exception of the brief shocks in my heart as I thought ‘Where am I going?’ I shouldn’t have driven today, I was a danger to myself.

The working day passed in a blur, I felt shame for forgetting everything – even my own name when I signed for a parcel. I’d be in the middle of a mundane task, something I’ve done so often I could do it with my eyes closed, but then I’d disappear into my own head, ‘What am I even doing? Do I know how to do this? Where was I?’ My productivity slows down and eventually stops, and as I come back down to Earth I look at the half finished task in front of me with total confusion, as though I’ve woken up in a strange place, ‘What is this? What is going on?’.


Throughout my entire life I’ve frequently forgotten names, faces, directions, and instructions. It took me a long time to pass my driving test because every lesson felt like we were starting from square one. I could have visited a place ten times before but still rely heavily on a sat nav to get me there, one time my sat nav failed and I drove the wrong way, and I flew into such a panic that I cried and vowed never to drive that route again. I feel like a baby in an adults world, the only one who doesn’t have a clue what she’s doing or where she’s going.

I’m confused, hopeless, forgetful, and doubtful of myself. But I’ve learned not to be critical, and to be patient with myself. After all, if it’s a symptom of a mental illness I can’t help or didn’t ask for, or a side effect of medication prescribed to make the illness more manageable, it’s not a personal flaw, it’s a work in progress.

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12 thoughts on “The Symptom of Depression Nobody Talks About

  1. Thank you for this post! I completely get what you mean. I have lost count of the number of time’s I’ve been walking and have felt like my legs don’t belong to me and could collapse at any minute! Thanks for sharing 🥰 Steph x


  2. I just stumbled across your blog post and I relate to this “fog”, anger and emotions so much. I have been dealing with what I was unsure was depression or something to do with my hormones. My doctor recently prescribed me with an anti-depressant but I have been too scared to take it. I consider her a band aid doctor so this has been a tough time trying to decipher if depression is really what I am dealing with. Thank you for sharing.


  3. Probably the second most difficult symptom (after lethargy and slower “robotic movement”).

    Easily disoriented when visiting places or apartment rooms, I know, in own living areas. Sometimes prone to zone out mid sentence.

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  4. I feel like I am fighting my depression alone the battles I fight in my head on a daily basis and then to be told by your doctor oh you are doing well I hate going to them as i feel I am a burden and getting in the way the demons in my head telling me to end my life I am worthless I have no respect for myself I hate who I am I carry my heart on my sleve, I breakdown at the least little thing a whimp but I hate seeing what is happening in our world blaming myself for it all even though I am told this is not down to me. I just wish I could just go to sleep and never wake up in my sleep I feel safe away from everyone I am afraid of going out alone in case I am attacked again my wife goes everywhere with me I feel such a failer it is like being a child again except without the abuse both physically mentally and sexually I don’t remember my childhood at all it’s too painful to go there some nights my head fills with the mental torchure of my agressive father who told me I should be dead and always afraid of him which I was that he now haunts me in my sleep . please god just let this nightmare end let me find peace this page as helped me by seeing there are others who also suffer depression to god bless each and every one of them and thank you for this page


    1. That’s really sweet of you, you sound like a wonderful friend. I’m glad this post was able to help you as well, thank you for reading. I hope you start to feel better soon. 💛


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