Failure Is An Option

Failure Is An Option

The uncertainty of the future can be a scary thing. It’s why I mostly hold back from going after what I really want because it’s ‘too risky’. But if we always held back, we’d never reach our full potential.

There’s lots of thing I’d love to do; when I daydream (which is often) I’ll imagine a different Zoe. She lives much more freely than I do, and does what she believes in without any real fear of failure. She’s educated, well travelled, and more confident than I am. Why can’t I be her?

We often say what we’d like to do if we won the lottery: Buy a house, travel the world, donate it all to charity, never work again. Why is this life always reserved to a far off fantasy? Is it because it’s actually unattainable, or because we make it so?

Currently, in February 2018, I have 29 locations on my travel bucket list. If I took one holiday every year (And that’s a luxury for a lot of people!) I’d complete my bucket list by 51, and I’m determined to do it. I will do it. My full time job doesn’t fulfil me, but I’m content while I work towards the things I really want to do.

I suppose I could just quit my job and tick every location off the list before I’m 30, but that wouldn’t be reasonable. There’s other things I’d like to do in life that require money as well. For me right now, it’s all about planning, and prioritising my goals. But without a doubt, if I knew I wouldn’t fail, I’d pack my bags and set off on the adventure of a lifetime around the world – I’m sure it would be unforgettable.

I’d move out of the town I’ve lived in for years, the place I’ve long outgrown, and plant my feet anywhere else that holds more excitement and promise. A guarantee of a job I’d love, an affordable home, and a vibrant new city that’d offer me new opportunities. But nobody can guarantee all of that, can they? So you just have to roll the dice.

I’d also love to dive fully into my writing, be a full time mental health advocate & campaigner and writer, maybe publish a few books? I’ve been told before that I could write a book, that I should write a book, but what could I write about? Could I do it? What if it failed?

Failures in life give us an opportunity to learn; no matter how big or small. No life is perfect, none are without frustration or humiliation or loss. Everyone is scared of failure to some degree, but if we all lived in fear, none of us would really be living at all.



  1. March 2, 2018 / 9:32 am

    You’re right that we can learn from failures. Improve and go further. The only possibility to avoid failures is to do nothing. And this is the only real failure. All others are indeed just lessons learnt on the way to success.

  2. March 3, 2018 / 5:44 pm

    I was always taught to be a better loser but I never put that to practice in life. This was a post I needed, thank you for posting this 🙏

    • March 6, 2018 / 11:23 am

      I’m glad it’s helped you, thank you for reading 🙂

  3. March 4, 2018 / 10:31 am

    I totally agree when you said that failure can give us that opportunity to learn something and I think that’s the beauty success rarely affords. Somehow the phrase, “So you just have to roll the dice.” is now stuck on my head and in a good, inspired way haha!

    Thanks for sharing Zoe!

    xx Kate |

    • March 6, 2018 / 11:21 am

      Thank you for reading Kate! I hope life has some exciting adventures planned for you when you roll that dice! 🙂

  4. March 4, 2018 / 10:38 am

    Fear of the unknown can definitely keep us from living our best life but sometimes you have to just take that leap of faith it’s never really a failure as that jump into the unknown can take you through a new journey and we grow so much from it 😊 great post 👍🏻


    • March 6, 2018 / 11:20 am

      You’re right, life is all about learning! Thank you for reading!

  5. The Crooked Bookmark
    March 4, 2018 / 2:55 pm

    I’m in that stage at the moment and worrying about what the future holds, but do you know what you’re so right we cannot live in fear. I have two choices to make one to travel full time for a while or two to stay living with the family for another year to try and save funds to get my own home and to also enable me to get to the gym daily and lose the weight I need to lose! What do I choose? What if I do one and regret not doing the other! haha.

    That is my daily life struggle, but I know I will eventually make a decision and not be afraid of failing.

    I look forward to reading what comes next for you. x

    • March 6, 2018 / 11:19 am

      It’s tough because if you choose one path you might wonder what life would have been like if you chose the other, but if you make a decision you believe in, stick with it! Who says you can only do one of those things?

      Thank you, and I look forward to hearing what comes next for you too!

  6. March 8, 2018 / 7:19 am

    A great post. In the past I completely felt that way and I still feel that way a lot still (worried about the future). But I can truly say some of the most amazing things Ive done is taking the risks that I may fail. I left a job that made me very unhappy and traveled (by myself) then moved to a new city without a job I just had to believe it would all work out, even though I had my doubts (as well as some people I know). Sometimes you don’t realised how strong, until you push yourself to do the things that make you anxious.(as hard as it is at times)

  7. March 12, 2018 / 7:30 pm

    Ah, another great post. Real world vs ideal world, eh… I hope you get to visit all of those places. I did a couple of last minute “Skyscanner” trips last year – and the plan is to do the same this year!

    • March 12, 2018 / 9:51 pm

      Thank you! I’m working so hard to make it happen ☺️ that’s amazing that you did that, I love the spontaneity of a last minute holiday! ☺️

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