Why I Quit Facebook

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About a year ago I gave up Facebook, and I haven’t looked back. I found Facebook to be more toxic than it was helpful; once a way to connect old friends and distant relatives quickly spiralled into a popularity contest.

  • I was always glued to my phone

I lost so many hours that would have been better used on other tasks I had piling up, or just doing things I enjoy like reading and writing. I’d spend most mornings rushing around before work because I’d wasted an hour in bed just refreshing the timeline. Now I don’t use Facebook any more I have so much more free time!

  • I was ignoring the people around me

I didn’t appreciate the people around me as much because I was constantly drawn into the online world, and I’ve since learned to put my phone down and really listen to people, I value face to face interaction a lot more. I know this isn’t possible all the time, and technology has allowed us to communicate more, but sometimes it works against us – why should I sit here messaging my mum when she’s literally in the next room?

  • I made unhealthy comparisons

University graduates, exotic holidays, engagements, weddings, babies, nights out, dream jobs, expensive cars, their first home, and that perfect fucking mirror selfie. I felt like I was missing out on life while everyone else was living it. I came across a quote a while ago, and it really stuck with me:

“Don’t compare their highlight reel to your behind-the-scenes”

 People can create a perfect life on social media by choosing what they post, but you don’t know what happens beyond that. That couple just got engaged, but I bet they still argue. That girl just landed her dream job, but I bet she had to work ten shitty jobs before she got there. Don’t forget your own achievements while you’re drowning in everyone else’s. We’re all living our own lives, going down separate paths, at our own pace.

  • It’s my business

On the other hand, I don’t feel obligated to share every detail of my life on social media. The annual holiday photos, where I went at the weekend, what I wore. It’s fine if you like to share these things, but don’t feel as though you have to. Chances are, the people who care enough about you to want to know probably wouldn’t have found out through social media stalking anyway.


Since being off Facebook, I’ve found my confidence has improved, I have a lot more free time, and my head is clearer. Just because I quit Facebook doesn’t mean you have to – it has its merits, just not for me. Some people find comfort in scrolling and seeing what everyone is up to; but be aware of any toxic or obsessive behaviours that emerge from it. Your mental health is far more important than a few likes.






14 thoughts on “Why I Quit Facebook

  1. It’s interesting. I have been hearing of more and more people quitting Facebook; I guess I wasn’t the only one who found the whole pretend world more toxic than “social.”
    My reasons were a little different, but the end goals were the same! I became very ill with a life threatening illness in 2012; I’m just now in the recovery phase, (blessed beyond measure!). As a result of my illness, I had several head injuries due to falls, and have an almost 3 year memory gap (2013-2016) of which my memory is pretty fuzzy.

    It was during that time that I stopped using social media because, well, posting anything with serious brain trauma is just not a great idea. But I DO remember that Facebook only served to make me feel even lonelier, more isolated, more abandoned. When someone becomes as sick as I was, for as long as I have been, the honest truth is that life just goes on for people. I was so humbled by the kindness of friends, family, acquaintances, and even strangers in the first months of my illness, but eventually everyone has their own lives to live. And, when you factor in the changes that one experiences with traumatic brain injuries, well… It’s just too much for most people to comprehend and adjust to, in my case anyway. Gradually, everyone just drifted out of my life.

    And Facebook was the very unfriendly reminder to let me know what those friends DID make time to do. Another issue that I had was that during that timeframe when my memory was damaged, it seemed like the whole role of social media just intensified! I remember running into a friend about a year ago, and much to my surprise, she had gotten married 2 years prior AND just had a baby girl! When I expressed my shock at having missed all of this, she said that she’d posted everything on Facebook. As in that’s how we all communicate now. And, I’ve got to be honest, I just can’t do it!

    And HOW do people keep up with ALL of the different platforms? It’s exhausting just thinking about it! It really saddens me to see how so many of us are spending so much time just passively observing everyone else’s life instead of actually living our own!

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    1. I’m so sorry, you went through an awful lot and it sounds like some of your friends weren’t supportive. Facebook is not the be all and end all, but as you said as everyone uses it so much for communication and sharing I wonder how we managed at all before it (and we obviously did!).

      And it’s not just Facebook – there are SO many social media platforms now and the pressure to be active and relevant on all of them is unreal! I’m finding it so much better for my mental health to just pick one or two I like but not make them a priority in my life, and Facebook certainly didn’t make the cut!


  2. I’ve been thinking about quitting Facebook too for all of the reasons you listed here. I rarely use it anyway and need to keep a profile so that I can still use my ‘page’ for my small business but even then I’m rarely on it. It’s such a poisonous environment and some people can get really weird if you don’t accept them as a friend or something daft x x
    Ellis // http://www.elliswoolley.co.uk

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  3. It’s so true about taking up time. Over the years I’ve found myself using it less and less. The problem is that our phones now do more than ever before and we forget that there is much more to life than a screen.

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  4. I still have a facebook account but I check it maybe once a week as I find it neither useful or necessary. If something doesn’t add genuine value into our lives, it is best just to leave it behind us and I am glad to hear quitting Facebook has been a positive experience for you! Xx

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  5. I also came off Facebook about a year ago. Life is so much better without it. Ive not once been tempted to go back.

    I’ve attempted to quit Twitter a number of times, but that one seems to be a little more difficult. 😆

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  6. Thanks for posting this because I was just having this conversation with my family. I felt like Facebook was lowering my good vibrations!!! At first I couldn’t understand why, but then I realized most people use it to just post personal moments, but I’m not comfortable uploading photo upon photo of me and my family. I was posting mental health awareness articles and no one was even interested, but somehow were more interested in discussing shoes!! Okey dokey! 😀

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  7. I’ve felt like loosing the weight of facebook on my shoulders. It’s such a burden! I honestly only use it to post more than too many albums and share my disastrous nights out, lol!! But, other than that it just causes arguments, self hatred and breakups hard! Great post Darling xo

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    1. I was worried that I’d ‘miss out’ on so much, but now I’m more than happy living under a virtual rock! I haven’t deleted my account, but I haven’t actually used Facebook in almost a year now – if you’re on the fence, try it!


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